Seriously, I found my sister (who’s nearly 30) watching a silly video about “feminists doing men’s work”, basically just a hate compilation of tiktoks and a chud yelling at the camera about evil leftists and stuff like that.

How the fuck do you stay happy watching this slop? It’s just constant hateful bullshit, I’m surprised we don’t see more terrorism from this stuff being consumed by millions of people everyday.

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    I don’t think they do. I think (maybe like us) the stress and cortisol and need to be “informed” becomes a habit. I forget the science but it’s much easier to create a bad vibe than make someone feel good, and playing on fear and anxiety keeps people glued to the news.

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      Exactly this. I like to say that they are stuck on the lowest rung of the dopamine reward ladder (is cortisol what I should be saying).

      They get their jollies from hitting the hate button, and they are addicted to it. They don’t know how to be properly happy.

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        there’s hate-slop here but with legitimate reasons for hate due to seeing the evils in the world for what they are glasses-on unlike chuds angry for manufactured agenda reasons

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          Yeah, it’s not that the “is your hatred pure” legitimate or unwarranted, but being in the state of arousal, of being under threat and distressed that it creates, can become “normal” enough that it feels weird when it is absent.

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        Both parties can be very driven to seek out information that is distressing. Idk about them, but I do it bc i feel a constant need to be aware, to know what’s happening, both bc i feel it might some day help me to change things, and because remaining ignorant feels like abandoning some duty. Whereas they’re seeking out bs about “illegals” doing crimes. But they think they’re being informed about threats they face, and that they need to keep seeking that “information” (fash propaganda) out to be “informed” and protect themselves.

        The reasons and goals are quite different, but both groups are exposed to a great deal of stress.

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    They are addicted to the feeling of power they get when sneering at something/someone. Whenever they say “clown world” they feel like Jim from the Office staring directly at the camera–as if they are in the know, the most informed ones, the superior ones. That plus the comment sections of these videos give them a rush from both them posting and getting likes, and seeing their existing views get articulated by others–that rush of validation is hard to come by IRL.

    They aren’t necessarily miserable in the traditional sense, in the first person, as long as they are not directly doing introspection or evaluating how far detached from everyday people they have made themselves. Usually the craving for these feelings of superiority/validation comes from them trying to mute some deeper insecurity and inadequacy they are avoiding facing up to at all costs.

    For instance a lot of judgmental puritanical people are also frightened of the possibility that they can’t hang with the cool crowd and cannot make themselves likable in social settings, so adopting the worldview that those who can are actually just “mainstream,” sheep or forbearers of civilizational collapse enables them to cast themselves as righteous/principled for not participating in the worlds that they’d felt excluded by in the first place.

    The harm these people are ultimately doing though is what is known as “self esteem debt,” mentally placing themselves on pedestals they did not earn through any real-world action, and having to retreat to ever more demented circles and echo chambers to sustain the feeling of being on the right side of something–leaving their own self development stagnating, letting their insecurities compound rather than be unpacked.

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      I don’t know if I agree with the linked article, specifically the part where they talk about how people complaining about the lack of black women in the Dove ad were duped because they accepted it had authority over beauty. I would assume most people who say that are just… pointing out how the ad is superficial and faking feminism like all ads do; not trying to insinuate they actually give it any sort of weight. The point isn’t to point out hypocrisy but to point out the fact that all ads do not care about people.

      Also the anti-psychiatry stuff is super fucking weird. Fuck people who have ADHD I guess, says the “last psychiatrist”.

      One of the great insights of psychoanalysis is that you never really want an object, you only want the wanting, which means the solution is to set your sights on an impossible ideal and work hard to reach it. You won’t. That’s not just okay, that’s the point. It’s ok if you fantasize about knowing kung fu if you then try to actually learn kung fu, eventually you will understand you can never really know kung fu, and then you will die. And it will have been worth it.

      Bitch I know from experience that I want chocolate cake and the best part about wanting chocolate cake is eating chocolate cake. Eat my baaaaalls you privileged piece of shit.

      I know I’m probably doing a defense mechanism of narcissism or something according to this person’s website but I think people formulating identities and having conceptions of self is normal, not narcissism. And psychiatry is essential for many people to function. “Just be good and do good things instead of trying to process trauma” (which they think isn’t a real condition) is garbage advice for most people.

      Anyways confidence debt seems to be a real thing but I’m seriously skeptical of the rest of the website. It gives me the same vibes as people who tell chronically fatigued or depressed people to just get better somehow and how they don’t need medicine because it’s bad and artificial (alternatively, that they don’t need medicine because success doesn’t matter! But it does matter because we live under a fucking material based economy and not “succeeding” means you die).

      Edit: he seems to think most things that take a “it’s not your fault” approach to people’s problems (aka most things that acknowledge the existence of mental disorders" are making shit up to feed a generational illness of “TLP narcissism” which is actually the root cause of society’s ills.

      Fuck this guy, seriously

      Edit: On a clarifying redditor fan of this “psychiatrist”:

      Why isn’t it grandiosity (i have lots of grandiose fantasies)? What all narcissists long for is to be taken for high status individuals, whatever that may involve in their environments. It often involves grandiosity, but not always. It might involve victim status in “woke SJW” circles. It might involve being the most “empathic” in new-age circles. Narcissism is too adaptive to characterize it with just grandiosity.

      groooan it’s just ted kacyzyansydmfkkg 2

      A lot of his advice seems good (having an internalized sense of morality rather than relying on others for it) but it’s coming to it from a seriously wrong and ableist direction

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    I have a weird personal theory about this. Have you ever gotten angry at an imaginary argument? If you stop to analyze your own emotions in that moment, you might find that it surprisingly feels good. There’s a rush to anger, a feeling of power and excitement, and I think some people like to feel that rush, so they consume stuff that makes them angry. Conservative media appeals to this feeling.

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      Yeah this is 10000-com% a factor. Their media even supplies them with an arsenal of nice little workshopped catchphrases they can throw at most common arguments, and that shit fucking works because siding with centuries of deeply-rooted propaganda gives them the veneer of stating obvious truths. They get to win all those arguments more often than not.

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    Spoiler, they don’t, they’re the least happy people you can imagine, while most people keep their sad and angry weirdness to themselves chuds and other reactionaries are leaking it all over the place so they can be seen, so at first glance it looks like a strongman act and a better way of handling irony poisoning, especially to Murikkkans and others that love humor outrage at the cost of others, when really its not much healthier than bottling, if not worse since they harm others aside from harming themselves. They just lack social awareness to see how fool they’re acting and it doesn’t look badass, its like a baby having a tantrum because they were told no. The baby feels no shame for their tantrum.

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      Some people just need to be bullied more tbh. Stop validating or kid gloving their bs opinions from an early age. One of the worst effects of hyper individualism imo, this pervasive idea that every feeling is valid. People interpret that to mean every feeling is justified

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    They’re not happy. But so aren’t most people not consuming this crap either. Humans/animals aren’t meant to be happy constantly, otherwise we wouldn’t strive for more and thus proliferate the species.

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    I’m going to take a more positive view on anger here, but it’s far more negative of conservatives tbh

    Anger is a genuinely helpful driving force, especially when struggling through inflation, various traumas, the constant death of people due to Covid, etc. “When hope abandons you and joy fades, anger will keep you warm”.

    The problem is that these people are cowards. They know deep in their gut who they should be angry at (those with immense power over the conditions they’re in) but they’re afraid of getting on their bad side punished for it, because they’ve internalized that being angry at authority is wrong.

    So they have to constantly dope up on hate-cope to keep their main drive to keep going, going. While it is absolutely not a good idea for us to hate scroll (constant adrenaline and cortisol leads to huge health issues) we generally don’t need to do this. Just walking down the street or glancing at Facebook can give us dozens of things to be genuinely angry about. So we have kind of a natural, functional anger generation loop while conservatives have to basically supplement it with unhealthy amounts of hate inducing media.

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      They know deep in their gut who they should be angry at

      I’m not so sure about that. I mean sure, you hear them talk about “elites” but it’s always something like, Hollywood actors or something.

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        Well, it also makes sense if it never occurs to them to be angry at those who are more powerful than them, because as mentioned they basically believe since childhood that authority is always good