This all started because Catboy removedry said that using “they/them” if you are unsure is perfectly reasonable and not necessarily transphobic.
We all know some people use it in a cynical way but the thing that kicked off this whole discourse was just about how to address people who you don’t know their preferred pronouns and it might not be safe or acceptable to just outright ask.
I was always taught to use “they” to refer to someone whose gender is unknown. It was at that time more about not knowing if they’re a man or a woman and not what their preferred pronouns are but seems to fulfill its function in both cases
This all started because Catboy removedry said that using “they/them” if you are unsure is perfectly reasonable and not necessarily transphobic.
We all know some people use it in a cynical way but the thing that kicked off this whole discourse was just about how to address people who you don’t know their preferred pronouns and it might not be safe or acceptable to just outright ask.
Edit: lol got
by the slur filter oops.
lmao
Hot take, the slur filter doesn’t understand context, and as a result, clamps down on various kinds of queer slang. And I think that’s cringe.
Like, look at this section from My Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstien, where trans people are describing their experience of gender:
These are beautiful, amazing, and I absolutely adore every single one!
But the Hexbear slur filter would butcher these so bad, they’d read like a Papa Roach radio edit
Suffocation. No breathing. Don’t give a removed if I removed
I was always taught to use “they” to refer to someone whose gender is unknown. It was at that time more about not knowing if they’re a man or a woman and not what their preferred pronouns are but seems to fulfill its function in both cases