Why do I love Luce so much?

Saw this and commenting on it so I don’t get any more questions, this was not me. I wish I had that much money to try to donate, but I’m living paycheck to paycheck right now. I plan on donating some on Friday, but I really don’t need any more DMs asking why I did this for something I have nothing to do with

I still cry thinking about the time I posted on mutual aid needing money to keep my ex’s nephew out of foster care and the people on here sent enough to get him a Halloween costume and lice treatment after the court costs? This place is my safe space

I really relate to that. I’m not a very traditional trans woman. I get sensory overload from makeup, I just want hormones and dresses. It’s really easy to diminish the discrimination you face because you have a somewhat privledged position on it. I’m also very timid, so it’s very hard sometimes. I’m not saying I’m a perfect leftist who always stands up for the right thing, but when I can’t DBT my way out of it (for example, she thought racist jokes were funny, I wasn’t going to stand up for her on that) I’ll definitely use my privledge to the advantage of other people, and that’s what being a good ally is all about.

I checked out all the gofundmes even though I don’t have the money to donate right now, holy shit I’m bawling you guys. This website has done so much good for the world it’s almost overwhelming

No that’s totally valid. I don’t really talk about it super openly, but because of how I was raised, I honestly have a really weird relationship with the positions of privilege I have now as an adult. I was raised by my Dad who told us we were American Indigenous, and I had a lot of features that saw me experiencing racial discrimination as a kid, being regularly called racial slurs in middle school. Eventually I did a DNA test, found out I am 100 percent white. Now that I’m a shut-in, I’m a lot paler and face a lot less colorism. And I’m early enough in my transition that I will purposefully use my perceived masculinity if the situation calls for it (witnessing sexual harassment, overt sexism in general, ect.)

With people with PTSD, we often talk about survivors guilt. I was in some nuclearly bad situations as a kid, and I feel horrible that I made it out alive when so many other kids didn’t. I kind of relate that to the experience of being a decent white person as someone whose strangely kind of experienced both perspectives. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with offering support to marginalized groups, as long as you aren’t babying them. There’s nothing wrong with sending a “I’m sorry you had to go through that” with a hug emote." Supporting people is good, we’re social creatures. You might feel better about yourself for sending that to someone, but there’s nothing wrong with that. They feel better getting a little bit of support and validation. If you really break it down, absolutely every relationship is “transactional” in some way. Friends don’t just hang out with each other because they need to support their friend, they hang out because they enjoy doing it. I think the important part is that you don’t invalidate anybody’s experience because of your privilege. Sometimes it’s really easy to fall back on your gut reaction, but it’s usually better to just read a little bit first and see how that changes what you think.

You don’t have to trust your own intentions, you just have to keep educating yourself, and listening to marginalized people when they speak. You can have selfish reasons for doing things, as long as they’re not your only reasons for doing things. I’ve never seen you post something that seemed condescending or anything like that. Being a better ally is easier when you accept all parts of yourself, even the parts that make you feel uncomfortable. It’s not in this space, but I’m sure you have the privilege to defend people IRL. At my old job, an old cis lady would always go to the bathroom with me so I wouldn’t get shit. At the same job, there was a single black server that was always forced to do the worst jobs (cleaning the bathrooms, running food, ect.) and I called out management for it because I was perceived as a white dude at the time. She thanked me for it because she wasn’t really in the position to stand up for herself (very quiet person, working at a place owned by an HOA for petit bourgeois). The more you educate yourself and listen, the more you know when you should speak up. Knowledge is liberation

My life has gotten so much better since I left my ex’s house. I’m not in constant fear of having to mask around her, and it makes such a big difference. The other night, I realized just how badly I was stuck in my old habits because of her abuse and I’m so glad to be finally working past it. I have so much to offer the world outside of my PTSD and I’m finally in the spot to realize that. Really happy this week

I would suggest reading Oppose Book Worship by Mao. This piece of theory has saved me so many times. Before I came out, I’d say whatever dumb bullshit came to mind because people around me took it seriously. Now that I’m out of the closet (as both a Marxist and a trans person) I don’t feel the need to speak up on things unless I am certain what I’m saying is good information. It’s lead to some of my best critical writing, and has kept me in the learning mindset instead of just falling back into the “I know everything” my brain so badly wants to do.

With the ingredients you listed, I’d strongly suggest looking into Cajun red beans and rice. Pretty much a perfect cheap way to use onions, canned tomatoes and pepper. If you can get celery for cheap enough (it’s less than a dollar for 2 two weeks supply near me) it’s also worth adding. Can also go in a Mexican direction, but with the mackerel and sardines I think that’d fit into a cuisine with Jamaican links a lot better

What symbol are you using instead of S? I’ve never seen that before

Bump amber whataboutism

Maybe it’s because I’m in America, but I’ve never met a vegan who would vote for Trump. Lots of Kamala/Biden vegans, but I seriously cannot imagine a vegan Trump voter. Who is this post even for?

Bump amber whataboutism

I wish you the best of luck in getting beanis

Whenever I feel pessimistic about people, I remember Vietnam and am brought great comfort. When reading about the history of Vietnam, the shocker for me is always that they liberated Cambodia directly after the US war failed, choosing to essentially fight the US again but with China as an adversary instead of support. People who had survived defending their homeland from war crimes like napalm and agent orange deciding to go on the offense for strangers against that with even less support than they had defending. After these people secured their own freedom from the west, when they could have just decided they want to enjoy the freedom they have now, stuck up for the right thing with no support and everything to lose.

People write stories about individuals doing the right thing against insurmountable odds, but Vietnam’s communist history feels better than any of these fictional stories. Instead of just being 1 hero with their gang, it’s thousands of working class people stepping up to be that storybook hero and even succeeding

Neither party is particularly good on climate change, so there’s no reason for it to be a voting issue. Those who actually care about the environment also see that the Dem solutions are useless and only succeed in not being climate accelerationism. Younger generations really care about climate change, to the point it’s a main political issue. But neither candidate is doing anything compelling enough to be a voting issue.

I’m not voting, and I’ll promise you that Kamala’s better views on climate change do nothing to contribute any confidence to vote for her

I’ve gone as long as an entire year without caffeine. I have seizures, so I quit caffeine when it causes me to have a seizure, usually end up back on it to be functional.

I’ve gone on and off caffeine quite a few times throughout the years. I felt physically better off caffeine, but found it hard to be functional enough without it.

Found out my AA sponsor is a self identified tankie today. Feels fucking great man

I ended up handing out candy in a friend’s parent’s house. People don’t trick or treat at apartments and it makes me so sad. But it was nice to hand out candy to kids this year, especially because I’m young enough to know just how to fuck with them lol

Thanks for the recs! Definitely checking out the Hobbit video