UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
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Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. > Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers. Source: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
    • DroneRights [it/its]OPEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      It was put into general use by a book which claimed comtemporary america was normalising NPD, and later by self help books selling the old Hitler special - all your problems are caused by a vulnerable minority and please give me money

      • magicker cattoEnglish
        31·
        1 year ago

        Just fyi, your posts in this thread are getting passed around on chan sites and are getting dozens of (You)s, I didn’t start it. Don’t try to delete they were using archive links and screenshots.

        It’s absolutely deserved. You’re talking about a term for an aggressive personality that is sometimes related to a DSM classification that’s a lot closer to psychopathy than, say, autism or schizophrenia when it comes to carrying a stigma, having symptoms which interfere with life & socializing.

        • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          41·
          1 year ago

          really showing self-awareness when you say

          when it comes to carrying a stigma, having symptoms which interfere with life & socializing

          while gloating about the harassment this user is going to receive from 4chan. classy.

          • DroneRights [it/its]OPEnglish
            41·
            1 year ago

            Eh, I don’t mind being 4chan’s “lolcow” or whatever other ableist bullshit they’ve invented this week if it means I’m making radical queer identities more visible and making more common queer identities seem more normal. I mean, Trump singlehandedly normalised fascism in the US by being such a fascist clown. Maybe I could go a little way to being the opposite of that. Let them parade my identity around in front of everyone, that’s what we did ourselves at Stonewall and we ought to be doing it more often.

            • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              71·
              1 year ago

              nah fuck that. I’m bullying 4chan weirdos any day of the week and once I’ve got some good material this is going in the dunk tank for the rest of hexbear to dogpile. fascists can get fucked.

              • magicker cattoEnglish
                11·
                1 year ago

                You’re not getting any good material. This is like saying you should ban the phrase “stay mad” over the existence of people with diagnosed anger management problems. Hexbear already dunked on the person you’re replying to for this. This is just round 2 on a bunch of obscure chans, none of which are your beloved Trumpists.

            • magicker cattoEnglish
              2·
              1 year ago

              They’re making fun of you for being an obvious wrecker with zero self awareness and trying to get people to stop using a word - (this is my addition) when it would be better to redefine narcissistic personality disorder. Just like histrionic is deprecated

          • magicker cattoEnglish
            1·
            1 year ago

            Not 4chan lol

            I like how you think people being made fun of online for bad takes now constitutes the same kind of difficult experience autistic and schizophrenic people have with socializing lmao. The new Chapo crowd isn’t worth a damn.

              • magicker cattoEnglish
                1·
                1 year ago

                They’re absolutely correct that hexbear is taken over by narcissistic wrecker radlibs and seeing the site almost move into banning “the n-word” (funny because it would be exactly like banning “cracker” like it’s the real n word) is just the cherry on top for them