• silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    a coworker explained to me that he was suing his sister in court because he loaned her money for rent and she hadn’t paid him back. I took a full 30 seconds to respond because I couldn’t fathom treating anyone, leave alone family, so transactionally. it’s not like he needed the money - he was just willing to trash his sister’s life because he felt entitled to.

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      1 year ago

      Yeh when I hear shit like this I’m unable to treat the person in question as really human (in a normative sense). Someone must have really lost - or never had - some really basic moral and emotional capacities to be able to think like that about their sister. People like this need to be terrified into submission and shamed for ever having thought like that, and punished if they did it prior to a socialist society.

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          1 year ago

          Sure. Although we both know as a matter of historical fact that’s very far from always being the case. Reeducation and reform are not inconsistent with facing consequences, taking one’s medicine, laying in the bed one has made, etc. Indeed the latter are likely part of the former imo. For me humans are an intrinsically social and political species, in virtue of our evolution and our capacities, and this determines what our material interests are as a species. When someone is so anti-social to the point of being willing to sue their own sister out of entitlement, they are actively contradicting the interests of humanity. It’s a sign of some of the most depraved transformations of human beings I can think of and should be cursed like the plague.

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            I think it’s a matter of social conditioning, though, not an intrinsic part of most of the people who behave this way (though this antisocial behavior leaves a lot of room for psychopaths to operate). “one must pay their debts” is ingrained in us as a truism from birth. I suspect many have never even considered the possibility that loaning money itself was considered a despicable act in many societies, or that it’s possible to relate to other human beings in a way that’s not transactional. this fact gives me hope that we can recondition most of these people - we must at least separate them from society and try. if they’re truly irredeemable, throw them in the volcano. but we must hold out hope for the possibility of human growth and change.