Seriously the stories I’ve read about dudes threatening to drive to womens house and murder them or something over rejections is insane.

Have any of the ladies here had to deal with a psychopath like that?

  • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    Absolutely

    I’ve had dudes lose their shit at me for politely turning them down several times. So now It goes through my head every time a guy hits on me.

    I think that’s a big reason why a lot of women don’t like being hit on by strangers, because every time there’s like a 50% chance they will threaten you.

    Like I just want to get home from work, guy, I don’t feel like being called a bitch today.

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    I saw multiple cishet dudes around me lose their shit after rejections and instantly go in stalker mode or worse. I always try to temper them down and sometimes it works, I’m amab presenting for now (sadly), at least I put a couple of people off from doing weird stuff

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      Patriarchy, r*pe culture, some dudes feel entitled to womens’ and AFAB presenting bodies.

      After I socially transitioned even before HRT, I didn’t really pass, but as soon as I put on a skirt that was the most I’ve been “accidently” touched and squeezed. It’s hard to get if you’re cis male and look it because it just doesn’t happen - but as someone who has been on both sides, it’s real and it’s shitty.

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        yeah, like most of the people around me were fine when i used to just crossdress occassionally around them but like there was this one guy who was really creepy and sexual about it and if i ever tried to call him out on it he’d say it was just a joke and stop doing it for a bit and then start again

        tldr: kill all men

  • allthetimesivedied [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Friend of mine used to be friends with this dude named Chris (and yes, it’s that friend). They hung out every day for like two years. And then one day they were hanging out, and he, in their words (and they say it this exact way every time) “pulled his whole dick out.” They told him to fuck off, they gave him another chance after a couple months, aaaaand then he did it again. Then he started stalking them.

    I wonder sometimes if the reason they never communicated things to me very well (i.e. why they never fucking told me they were uncomfortable with me following their Reddit account) is because they thought I would lose my shit or something.

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    Yes, and while the risk is not comparable, it’s not just men. I had a woman pull a knife on me while screaming I was too ugly/worthless/etc to reject her, how I couldn’t do better and I should be begging to be with her. Plenty of people are unhinged.