TerminalEncounter [she/her]

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Cake day: December 16th, 2021

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    Yes, laser and hrt works. You do need body fat for it to be redistributed. It can only do so much redistribution without body fat. One of the biggest tools for passing is voice training and yes it’s a pain and takes a long time, it’s also the only thing that doesn’t rely on lucky genetics and you will get a more femme voice by sheer effort (and sometimes coaching, but you can do it on your own too). You’ve also been doing HRT for a while, yeah? Eventually the big changes you get from the first 2 years slow down. Stuff still changes but they don’t come as fast and hard and those first few years

    For you, specifically, you do seem unnecessarily harsh with critiquing yourself. You do seem to discount the times you’ve passed. You do have some actual advantages, you are short(er) for example - I know we tease, but your height is a genuine physical advantage you have. Your personal issues with passing seem way more tied up with what’s going on in your head rather than anything physically. I mean, I guess you can only take it with a grain of salt because I’ve never actually seen you just read some posts.

    I would encourage you to take these things that might be bothering you to a therapist (ideally one who works well with trans people) if you can afford it. I swear these thought patterns can be worked through and we can get you to a place where you see a woman when you look in a mirror like so many other people do when they see you.