gawrsh…

“I see… and what makes you think I was joking about abolishing bedtime?”

When I was a child, my scratch-a-liberal family would give me endless shit about putting ketchup on my eggs. Because it’s “gross” to them - never mind what I thought tasted good as a stupid idiot child. I was told it was childish and to outgrow it if I wanted to be taken seriously, and so I did. For the first time in about 20 years I had an egg and cheese sandwich with ketchup on it. They were wrong. They were such absolute fools. Ketchup on eggs is god tier, as good if not better than sriracha. Little pigeon was 100% right about her own taste and I wish I could tell her that.

I know this probably wasn’t your main point OP, but it’s weird how people assign such moral and cultural value around someone putting a sweet vinegary vegetable paste on their food. “Oh no, the optics!” Absolutely unhinged, not materialist, and frankly embarrassing for any grown-ass adult to pass judgment on someone else’s food tastes. Unless it’s Mayo, that stuff is nasty - I don’t like it on my food and therefore nobody else should be allowed to have it without feeling shame.

Also, who the fuck are these french chefs? Are we sure they aren’t clowns? Mimes perhaps? It’s my understanding that roughly 30% of France’s population is now Mimes.

Thank you!

I can’t help but be triggered to effortpost by this. I know I said something to this effect in the other thread you made, and I’m glad to see many others here saying the same thing, but holy shit dude, this guy should just look at porn. It’s clearly all these dudes want to do, just goon their lives away. There’s something so deeply unsettling to me about this specific combination of militaristic murderdeath with bullets penetrating flesh, and this juvenile pornographic and dehumanized perspective on more than half of the human race. It just betrays this libidinal desire from their id that just wants to violently murderrape women. Even if they’re incels who are too physically and emotionally incompetent to even get close to achieving that, the fact that there are (if not large in number, certainly vocal) men who think like this and who stoke each other’s desires is terrifying as a woman. It’s not hard to imagine at a certain point the wires get crossed and the fantasies of power through violence get misdirected at the “objects” of their erotic attraction.

Like, I love something like Ion Fury, right? of course, but that shooter feels like a power fantasy for all genders with just a little bit of cheesecake. She’s hot and powerful and violent, but it never feels like agency is being taken away from her or that she literally just exists as an object to be jacked off over.

Whatever this “improvement” is supposed to be probably can’t even be described as a primarily sexual thing, it seems mostly based on a seething hatred of women in any role except sexual subservience. Which isn’t actually sexual, just an example of someone’s brainworms around sex.

God this is so real, @EelBolshevikism@hexbear.net. While the constant feed of porn and “gooning” play a clear part of this, I think you’re right that at its core is a deep hatred of women. It’s not even about sex, I imagine many of them would actually be repulsed at the thought of actual physical intimacy. Maybe DE was right and that really is the ultimate starting point of fascism.

It’s self-evident, but these men just hate women. They have such clear annoyance and contempt for them. They feel so entitled to women’s bodies from media brainwashing and nearly 6000 years of overwhelmingly patriarchal world history. They see not letting them cum in you as an affront, as real violence against their fragile egos. “How dare you?!” They don’t even want to see women happy. They want women to prioritize literally everyone except themselves. They don’t want to see women self-actualize and be beautiful and powerful on their own terms. They just want to jack off to disposable second-class citizens to feel any sort of power.

Can you even fucking imagine hating women like that? Its hard for me to conceive. The women of the world, who endure and give so fucking much. Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Friends.

How are these fascist men even human anymore at that point?

wall. wall. all of them. wall. its kinder than they deserve.

vote with your erection, gamers.

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your indie video game failed because it didn’t give 20 million clones of this adult toddler a chub

Please take the dunce cap off her, that’s not very nice! :kitty-cri: :cri:

You are a smart and beautiful owl, I believe you will succeed in your studies if you try again!

I know many people who have stated OP’s point are often being hyperbolic for the sake of comedy, but I really do think you’re on to something here, and I want to elaborate on it further. Nearly universally, every one of these online chuds who make endless waterfalls of “HAS insert media here GONE WOKE?!” content - if you followed all of their advice and listened to all of their complaints and did exactly what they asked you to, you would eventually just have hardcore pornography wherein someone who looks just like them violently fucks women and kills men. A snuff film, in effect. And every one of these “content creators” I mentioned, it should be said, just so happen to look like the sort of guy who just goons all day and loves jacking off more than anything else. I mean this, seriously and sincerely, and as someone who is generally sex-positive and pro-masturbation: these dudes have had their brains fucking COOKED and FRIED by watching too much hardcore porn and just gooning constantly. It’s almost self-evident, they’re practically telling on themselves. And now, any time they engage with media whose sole focus isn’t being titillating to their deranged viciously misogynistic fantasies, they throw a tantrum like a baby. More broadly, I think they apply this same worldview onto reality at a certain point too, and then their pornographic habits bleed into how they view the real world, and even worse, how they view politics and other human beings. Porn can be fine, isolated in a context, and so can self-pleasure, but these dudes are clearly taking it way too far and letting it infect how they see the rest of the world. Having 24/7 access to porn isn’t enough, they DEMAND like a petulant child that all media, universally, look exactly like the porn they consume.

This is a thread I want to pull on more and an idea I’ve wanted to explore more. How men’s porn consumption habits (specifically hardcore, violent, and overtly misogynistic pornography, which is blasted everywhere online) can lead to real changes in their political views, especially if it’s something that’s done daily or every other day. Then, by demanding that reality conform to their expectations that have been established through pornography, they essentially non-consentually rope us all into their weird sexual fantasies and kinks. You see it with Muskrat and his breeding kink. You see it with incels and tradcaths. And you see it with this weird unwavering insistence that “NO! All women are SEXY BITCHES! It is woke BRAINWASHING to tell me strong butch women exist!! Theres never been a strong woman ever! I know that for a fact because every day I watch 3-4 hours of videos of women being overpowered and brutalized by men! That’s normal and healthy!! Shut up I don’t have a problem!!”

yeah, and like, I hope it’s clear in my OP, but literally all I want to know is what to do to not trigger their flagging system again. I have no idea what I did or why I was flagged as NSFW. If there’s something I need to do to prevent their automated algorithm from doing that again, I kind of need to know what it is to properly be able to use my tumblr blog in the normal expected way. I’m not looking to admonish anyone, I’m not looking to yell at anyone, or berate anyone, I just want to know how I’m supposed to use their website properly, and FAQs just don’t cut it. There isn’t a FAQ for my specific situation, lol.

That perspective makes sense, it’s definitely a “yes, and”, not an “either/or”. And while it makes sense from a business and logistics perspective, I think companies being more opaque and being harder to access is going to have severely negative effects over the long term. I think it’s only reasonable to expect that every organization with humans behind it should have some sort of human representative, even if it’s just a doorman at the office to tell you to go away. They benefit immensely from the public, why shouldn’t there be a way for the public to communicate with them? But earnestly, maybe that’s a naive and childish expectation for me to have.

Absolutely. I want to be clear too, I don’t harass or abuse these workers and I don’t encourage others to. These quests are just quixotic attempts of trying to find some official representative of the company who can tell me in clear language the information I need to know to properly utilize their product or service. If I’m calling someone who I know wouldn’t possibly be able to help me, I immediately apologize and ask them if they know who I can or should contact, and if they can redirect me. This has worked out for me pretty well in the past, but it’s often frustrating the amount of hoops that are put in place to make it so difficult to contact someone. I understand though, I’ve worked in positions where I’ve taken inbound calls from the public. I think it’s an element of hostile design that’s made all of our lives worse, and these companies love passing the buck around from department to department, from role to role, so that oops, nobody is ever accountable! Websites, Apps, Healthcare Providers, Hiring Agencies, Insurance Companies, Utility Companies, idk, it just sucks. But yeah, generally I’m a big believer you attract more flies with honey than vinegar anyways. I personally have a feeling it’s less likely that the public’s abuse of these workers caused this and more likely that it’s the result of profiteering strategies to make customer service cheaper and cheaper.

god and like, the way they try to sell the lack of phone calls, the lack of human connection as a positive thing.

“oh it’s so easy! use our AI chat! use our app! we bet as a young person, you’ve got phone anxiety right? well do we have the thing for you, it’s a chatbox! we’ll text your phone instead of calling, don’t you like that? Don’t you love it? isn’t it convenient for you?! oh no, it’s entirely incidental that we saved millions of dollars by switching to this instead of having a call center or having to pay a couple people to answer phones, oh no no no, this is for YOUR benefit!”

it’s so fucking condescending. i dont want an app, i dont want AI answers, I want to sit down with one of your employees for 5 minutes and talk to them about what I need, because I’m a person, a social creature who likes interacting with other social creatures. I’m not a god damn robot. where is the warm beating heart?! where is the fucking blood anymore?!

I heard once that anger is a misalignment with your expectations and reality. Once I heard that, it helped me navigate my anger a bit better.

Like, for instance, you expected better treatment and behavior from your Ex. I think it was totally normal and understandable to expect that. I’m angry at the inhuman cruelty of capital, because I expect to live in a world where people are good and kind to each other. You’re right that anger can be a healthy drive, but anger can also be really overwhelming and get out of hand if you feed it too much, so you’ve got to slowly turn the burner down from “bout to go postal” way down to a calm simple “This is not what I expected. I deserve better.”. At that very very low simmer, it’s still a productive drive, it’s still an affirmation of your dignity, but it hasn’t become self-destructive or cruel.

idk, hope that helps, comrade

I’m sincerely sorry for taking offense at something that was clearly not directed towards me.

I feel there’s this very common perception that women are all big soft lazy squishy babies who are automatically ontologically incapable and unwilling to perform dangerous, difficult, and risky activities, and I feel like that perception is unfortunately in the background of our world everywhere I go, almost invisible, like a constant low hum of radiation. I worry that unchecked blanket statements can help reinforce our worst biases.

I’m self-aware enough to acknowledge that I might be projecting that insecurity onto a clearly well-intentioned hexbear post, so fr, earnestly, sorry for being annoying about it.

I understand what you’re getting at - material conditions make it difficult for women to cycle, especially in North America - but as a woman who is literally a professional bike courier and spends most of my waking hours on the road cycling, I can’t help but take a little tiny bit of umbrage at your statement. Not only is “women don’t ride bikes” a factually inaccurate statement, it denies the actual courage and strength and bravery that existing women cyclists have to possess in a world that is actively hostile to us and our safety.

There are many women who ride bikes in spite of how dangerous conditions are, and not a statistically insignificant number of them - they account for about 25% of all cyclists in the United States. I see hundreds of them every day. It takes courage from them. It’s the equivalent of reading “Well now you know why there are no women in video games” or “This is why there are no women in STEM” - again, I truly understand what you’re getting at, that there are material conditions that make these environments more hostile to women specifically. However, I’m sure you can understand why your phrasing feels a little insulting - as if these women, most of whom probably had to fight extra hard fit in, simply don’t exist. Their accomplishments, their names, mean nothing because “there are just no women who do that, sigh, what a shame - no women’s history here to celebrate”. An alternative and more accurate way of phrasing it would be “there aren’t as many women who ride bikes”. Sincerely hope I’m not being annoying or sounding like a scold or anything, but like, yeah dude, I’m a woman and ride bikes for a living, lol, there are women who ride bikes, idk what else to tell ya. also this isn’t even anything new, here’s some context on the long-standing and well-established historical strategic partnership between women and bicycles

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In bike-unfriendly cities, only men with thick skin ride bikes

look man, I know broad strokes paint a picture quicker, but come on, lol, that’s such a blanket statement