As a sub, what would you most wish for? want to avoid?
As a top, how would your reward your good sub? your bad sub?
(What other question(s) did I miss?)
Obviously, there are no right or wrong answers , and other potential outcomes depending on your own D/s dynamics - simply would love to hear from both subs and Doms/Dommes…
My wife and I haven’t done much, but in my ideal world, yes, no schedules, just whenever the keyholder wants. Schedules ruin the spontaneity, not to mention being detrimental to the subs desire to serve. The longest I’ve been denied has been a couple of 100-day stints.
You are a very dedicated sub enduring these long stretches. Why so long, and did you finally learn any “lessons” during these times?
No particular lessons, and no particular reasons for going so long, but I honestly love the frustration and the feeling of being constantly aroused.
Wow, I thought I was doing well with a month being my record. I’m 9 days in at the moment, maybe I’ll try to match my record and then keep going afterwards.
Edit: do you find you want release less as you go on? I hit a barrier where I’m just bored not horny, if I did longer I’d hope that the horniness would get much worse again.
I find it comes and goes, like in waves. I’ve definitely reached that point like you’re describing, where the horniness just goes away for a while. But then it comes back. And then it goes and comes back again. I think teasing is important for keeping that arousal elevated too.