Girls who’ve had difficulties getting/staying hard. What helped?
So I’ve been on estrogen for 3.5ish years, and projesterone for most of that. I’m about 2 years post orchi. I basically can’t top anymore, and I’ve got two partners that I would very much like to top.
I’ve tried Sildenafil Cialis in the past, which did basically nothing. Viagra had mixed results, but leaves a huge barrier to spontaneity. I’ve heard of some girls using topical testosterone creams or gels, but I’m a little afraid of getting other androgenic effects. Kegels haven’t done much good, but perhaps I just haven’t managed to do them consistently enough.
Have any of you had success with anything you’ve tried?
Nothing. I learned to enjoy sex without it until bottom surgery.
Strap ons are great though
It was mental for me, so I stopped watching porn and got a Fleshlight. I started only thinking about my partner or what he looks like naked when I masturbated and that helped me overcome it.
Good luck! It can be really frustrating.
Ive been using topical T cream for years now since first getting issues with erections, habent had androgenic changes besides the fact i dont have dick skin tightness anymore.
That’s honestly pretty encouraging. How well has it worked for you?
You could try a cock ring. Doesn’t need to be fancy, and use a flexible one, not rigid.
Am a cis gay male who is a natural bottom, but a cock ring enables me to stay hard while topping. Sorry to intrude, I enjoy learning the perspectives of all the trans communities on Lemmy ☺️
Honestly, not a bad recommendation.
Depends on whether OP has penile atrophy, without testosterone causing spontaneous erections every night while sleeping, the penis will atrophy and lose the ability to hold as much blood as it did before, so even if she can get it erect it won’t be as hard or hold as much blood as before. The cock ring will help keep the blood that can be held, but it may not be enough to be useful for penetration, if that makes sense.
Others already said Mental/Hormones, it could also be low blood pressure. A little dizziness when standing up fast, maybe Feet that are always cold? Both are potential signs.
Definitely get the dizziness when I stand up, and I definitely have a tendency for cold hands and feet. They always get my blood pressure checked when I go to the doctor tho, and they’ve never said anything.
Viagra is just a fancy name for Sildenafil. So it’s basically the same thing. Rising testosterone level will help but I recommend it only after legal gender change.
Why only after legal gender change?
Oh shit you’re right. I always get the generic and Brand names mixed up. I meant Cialis.
Use a strap-on dildo. :-)
What was your dose of Cialis?
Not sure if this helps, but Carta Monir talks about her experience with erectile dysfunction in Napkin, here are the relevant pages (warning: NSFW text): https://imgur.com/a/xeeuMvc
Honestly I don’t remember. I was taking it every morning, and I never had my dosage increased, so probably what ever the typical starter dose is. Maybe I just needed a higher dose? I’ll have to talk to my doctor about it next chance I get.
