I’m not sure what’s going on over there, but half the time I see a post from there or go into a comment section and it’s just…bad. Like old reddit the_donald bad. Constant trolling, etc. You TS just really bad vibes. I’ve been blocking the communities as they come up, but I’m not sure what else I can do.

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    Hexbear is more trans friendly than the majority of trans places, honestly. The reason for this is the mods defer to trans users on what counts as transphobia, half the mod team itself is trans, and offensive posts are removed quickly before they can affect other people. I’d say its more trans positive than here, based off what I’ve seen. There are chaser comments that are left up even in response to moderators and admins on blahaj, these would be rapidly removed on hexbear. Plenty of trans places, this one included, also are not very good at weeding out people that are being sneaky about their transphobia and chaser habits, which can poison the well. And not only do the moderators of hexbear do good work, the dev team specifically goes out of their way to program ways to make trans users feel more comfortable (e.g. the universal pronoun tag system).

    As a trans woman that is also a survivor of abuse, jokes are made all over the internet about sexual violence and its very hard for me to avoid upsetting my PTSD. Hexbear actively removes these sorts of posts rapidly, too, and even removes borderline cases like bringing up SV out of context and without content warnings. For these reasons hexbear is the main site I visit, no other site or community really comes close.

    • That’s fine, as a person in nearly the same demographic group, it seems there are 20 people willing to spam a thread with pictures of pigs, concerning imagery with fascist roots and be generally disruptive to the site as a whole, for every level headed person.

      I like the way hexbear moderates, but the people affiliated with the instance are growing more and more toxic as time goes on. Is an instance responsible for its user’s behavior? No, I suppose not. But I’ve had to block 50 or so accounts on lemmy to be able to navigate politics and news without constant image spam, and they all come from hexbear.

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        concerning imagery with fascist roots

        ? what is this exactly. ive been on hexbear since it was founded and havent seen anything like that. the emojis are much smaller on hexbear itself, there is some sort of bug where that doesnt transfer to other instances, many users have been made aware and we now try to spoiler tag the emojis.

        the only thing i can think of were the cute little ghost pictures that the falange in spain created, but the lgbt community in spain and hexbear adopted as a ‘fuck you’ to the fascists. its like taking back the word queer.

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        trans-specter specter

        • Unfortunately, I don’t know how to find a list of users I’ve blocked to unblock and take screenshots, but the ones that made me wash my hands of the instance were clearly anti-semitic.

          There’s no situation where someone like that sits at the metaphorical table, and I don’t move tables.

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            idk what an antisemitic emoji would even be, i’ve never seen one used ever. we have emojis that have flags burning that are typically used whenever a country’s government does something racist. someone proposed one for israel but we decided against it iirc because it had a star of david on it. and i doubt youre saying anything in good faith at this point, your account is 12 hours old and has only posted in this thread.

            relevant emojis

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            amerikkka russia-cool israel-cool the last one is a stand in

            • I’ve got the same user across a few instances after the piracy ban on .world. But yeah, I’m a lurker mostly. My point is, there’s a particular vibe that’s presented even within this threads discussion that is pervasivly toxic.

              Emoji spam, constant whataboutism, etc. I’m not saying the instance is inherently bad. But the user base is pretty toxic, in my experience so far.

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                i dont think its right that cishet hexbear users are posting in this thread personally, i know some of them commented here for certain. i think its very fair for our LGBT users to post here against defederation, given it would split lemmy’s largest lgbt groups. and acting like that is brigading is silly, you cant brigade your own real life community. i would say thats the majority of the people who are responding to this thread from hexbear, based on what i know of the lgbt community there.