For me there’s a bit of a network effect where the polycule sprawls out into the distance. Partners have partners who have partners.

But for disconnected folks, it’s mostly been tinder (yuck), and a local meetup.

(Also this might be the first post? That or nothing federated yet)

  • Scratch@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    3 months ago

    If it be apps you be using.

    OkCupid has a decent Poly community.

    FEELD seems tailored towards non-monogamy.

    Maybe check around FetLife for some “munches” (vanilla social meet ups) and see if you gel with anyone.

    • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networkOP
      3·
      3 months ago

      I don’t know what happened on okcupid, but it is very quick to recommend me people in like Connecticut and Massachusetts. I live in NYC.

        • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networkOP
          1·
          3 months ago

          I know. It’s set to 5 miles. I just checked. Five recommendations in and it recommended me someone in NJ. Double checked the map and that’s about 20 miles from here.

          The distance limit seems more like a suggestion.