• fossilesque@mander.xyzOP
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    1 year ago

    Anecdotal, and I am not a doctor, but I am on the waiting list to be screened for autism. I think it is how doctors approach the former that is the issue. A lot of current therapy can feel like gaslighting to autistic brains. Stuff like this: https://www.dralicenicholls.com/why-doesnt-standard-talking-therapy-work-for-autistic-people/ I know I never had much luck with therapists until I found one that just listened and validated me and told me I wasn’t crazy for thinking like the way I do. I do not have experience from the male perspective, though. There are also problems with outdated information as things are being studied, the lack of empathy thing being one of them irc. If anything, I am too sensitive, haha; I even have a hard time watching movies with distressed characters… I have noticed that a lot of the help I’ve tried to get was like trying to treat a raw nerve repeatedly slapped with a bandaid, superficial and inadequate. Now that people are more aware of what it is, it is no wonder more people are getting diagnosed.

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      Agreed, I’m neither a man nor an incel but I’m diagnosed autism and ADHD and even with diagnoses and a lot of help on paper this is extremely frustrating. Too many therapies that are based on neurotypicals and we’re only beginning to scratch the surface of why they don’t work. Too many of us end up feeling deeply misunderstood and hopeless. I have to constantly keep up with autism research only to be able to speak my mind and avoid losing more years to failed attempts. I’m lucky about the people that surround me to have stopped me from increased resentment and many types of maladaptive coping mechanisms.