I’m not a woman, but I left the “bucolic utopia” I grew up in for the “crime ridden dystopia” of a major city in a left leaning state and will never go back. All I have to show for it is a walkable city, focus on education and arguably the best education in the country for my kids, TRAINS, the US’s only “high” speed train, healthcare for all, government policies based on compassion, diversity, very well paying jobs, leadership on climate action, free speech, acceptance of whatever and whoever you are, etc

I do miss the cheap land and housing, and I miss family, but there are so many things wrong with that place, and getting worse as the population ages, educated young people have left