Hey, let’s give OP the benefit of the doubt. We cannot pretend to know what They feel, so let’s just assume these pronouns really make Them happy in the same way as she/they for me. Because there’s other aspects to take issue with…

It’s the implied power dynamic and special grammar rules I don’t like. Capitalizing pronouns, especially since OP says They’re a goddess, feel is like lifting Them up above me, which I don’t feel is fair to me or anyone else. Then I also need to give Them special grammar rules, like they/them, my default gender-neutral pronouns, no longer being neutral? It feels like capitalization should be orthogonal to pronoun choice, but now everyone needs to relearn grammar. Most neopronouns are just learning a new word, not upending grammar. I’ve even noticed it changing how I’m reading replies in these threads, because the capitalized pronouns catch my eye like they’re the start of a sentence or a name I should take note of, they tricked me! I guess the only nice thing for me is it seems to more easily differentiate when a pronoun is referring to inanimate objects or a capital pronouns user.

Assuming OP is genuine (as you probably should), I think the main issue is the undue burden of everyone having to lower ourselves under our capitalized goddess. Should we be required to use a signal that implies You’re above us? When I switch to she, “she” doesn’t change the power dynamic between me and someone else, but if I said my pronoun is “master”, I think people would rightfully refuse. It doesn’t matter if OP sees this as a power thing, because most other people will and so forcing them to use it will bring up that feeling. Yes OP, I don’t want to make a trans person suicidal, but I also don’t want to make everyone around them feel lesser; and as You said, it doesn’t matter what others think, it matters what the person feeling it feels.

I did want to be respectful, and I think I got all the pronouns correct for OP, but it did make me uncomfortable for the reasons described above. In this thread I’ll try to capitalize pronouns as a show of respect, but I’d rather leave it in this thread to respect myself.

Densely populated area vs sparsely populated area. We should really be comparing deaths per attempted crossing.

This source claims over 100000 people tried to cross the Berlin Wall, and CBP says about 3 million attempted crossings in 2022

That’s about 1400 per million killed in Berlin and about 60 per million killed in the US. Considering one had shoot-to-kill orders and the other is supposed to be a upstanding country, only 20x better really isn’t that impressive.

If anyone can find better numbers, please do recalculate my results, my numbers are what I could find in a few minutes on mobile.

EDIT: corrected Berlin number, I read the wrong one initially

Months. I’m still sometimes like “oh, weird, that’s my name”. Tbf I don’t hear it a lot because I don’t talk to people much.

It took me like 6 months to tell my family new pronouns, and another few months to stand up and enforce it. I felt the same sort of not deserving of it until a few months on HRT (might be coincidence, as I’m also just overall happier and more confident).

Growing up is a scam anyway, stay young!

In my analogy the person would be avoiding starting in the first place.

The state deems one legitimate and one not. It’s only “violence” if the state says it is.

Same applies to HRT

Not even gonna submit a pull request? ;)

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/10894175

I only grow FOSS boobs!

I’m having an easier time staying sane. Guess I’m healing :D

Exactly, which is why I’m confused why you started off saying you’re straight. Clearly you said it for a reason, but it doesn’t seem relevant to anything, so I don’t know the reason. My best guess was that you meant it like “hey, I’m not trans either so I’m empathizing with you here” which is why I asked if you meant cis, because the opposite of trans is cis, not straight.

To clarify, I’m not attacking, I’m just trying to figure out what you meant.

What?

I got used to the feeling, but it never stopped hurting. I’m a lot better now, but still need to address the lingering effects.

Not sure why you mentioned being straight. Did you mean to say cis?

That’s just every bisexual person while driving

What Spiro does to me 😞

Death is far scarier than having never been born. I went through sooooo much torment thinking about death and if I should make today the day. I have PTSD from years of that. This is not a fair exit.

Death is scary, not wanting to die is not the same as wanting to live. I would’ve rather not been born during about 1/3 of my life, it’s only now that I’m finding any substantial (though inconsistent) enjoyment from life.