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  • unn@lemmy.catoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWas he (51M) just helping me (26F)?
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    2 days ago

    Even if he wasn’t making a move consciously, he was doing it unconciously. That’s why you should communicate and establish expectations/boundaries if you’re in doubt.

    I’m not saying being genuinely nice doesn’t happen. I (male 20s) myself was genuinely nice to a girl who came to me out of nowhere (she wanted to to fuck me probably in retrospective) and took her to home because she walking alone at night in desolated place so I was genuinely worried for her safety. But this was because I used to be very ingenuous. Someone in their 50s definitely hasn’t the same mentality of a clueless 20yo virgin like I was.
















  • If your happiness comes first then it is because you are special.

    I was going to write that, but left it out to not sound pretentious. Because I had no self love, I used to consider people who I loved special, but they ended up being incredible mean and detrimental to me. Even Christian Divine figures have disappointed me. So I learned the hard way the only special being to me should be myself.