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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Coming up with an alternative to the word “lame” seems like the wrong way go about this. To you, a lame thing is a thing you don’t like. That’s what it means to me, I’d wager that’s what it means to a lot of people. Saying it is a knee-jerk reaction. Any word you pick to replace it will have the same negative connotation. Instead of picking a short word to use to describe a thing you don’t like, stop and think about why you don’t like the thing and use that reason as your statement of disapproval. Or, if you’re just saying you don’t like a thing, maybe that sentiment doesn’t need to be expressed.


  • Sorry, wrong nomenclature. We are talking about the same subject (use of Reee) but I used the term OP in reference to the commenter you responded to. Sorry for the confusion.

    My point was that calling out using Reee as ableism is uncalled for, in my opinion, because it is used to signify a record scratch (if this is not general usage and confined to my bubble of experience , I do apologize). Pointing out the possibility for offense when there clearly is no offense implied, and no one stating that they are offended, smacks of white knighting.

    I feel like your comment came with good intentions, but to me it seems like unnecessary language policing. It’s a harmless onomatopoeia that could just as easily apply to the unrelenting tinnitus that rages inside of me.




  • I spent 6 months in the hospital dying faster than normal. My spouse was there to visit me nearly every day and we often got into fights about, in retrospect, supremely stupid shit. This is all to say that we experienced a traumatic event from two very different viewpoints. You’re partner is afraid about what could potentially go wrong and so are you. But you both aren’t afraid in the same way; you just can’t be and there is nothing wrong with that. But good news! Nothing’s gone wrong other than a stupid fight.

    My advice to you is to be there to see him off and be there for his recovery. He’s scared and being an ass. You were scared and were an ass. You’ve been together 5 years. You need to be by his side even if he says you don’t have to or that mom can take care of it all.

    After all, he’s your partner.






  • Last time I tried Linux was 23 or so years ago. I had no idea what I was doing or at that time knew how to figure it out. That being said, I want to use Linux but am apprehensive.

    I see computers as tools. I think that tools should be intuitive and fairly easy to use. My brief experience with Linux left me feeling that it requires a fair amount of time dedicated to setup and upkeep. That’s time I would much rather spend on other endeavors.

    Windows has gotten to a point where I don’t like using it. I will not switch to Apple products, full stop. But I won’t make Linux a full-time hobby.

    What should I do, friends?


  • This show was not for me, and I’ve had trouble trying explain why. I made it through most of the first season and followed the rest of it via recaps from my partner, mostly.

    The main problem for me was that, while none of the characters were likeable or had any redeeming qualities, I was was still supposed to find them relatable. To me, the show is saying “yes they’re super rich but at the end of the day we’re all human and have family and feelings and deserve blah blah blah,” and I’m sitting there watching and feeling uncomfortable because WHY THE FUCK ARE WE GLORIFYING THE LIVES OF THE SUPER RICH?

    but I’m glad you enjoyed it! Two thumbs down from this buckaroo, though.




  • I don’t judge people for their choices. Hell, my partner is a bartender and drinks often. It often feels, however, that when people find out I don’t drink, that they assume I’m judging them if they choose to. Maybe that’s just me projecting my hangups and insecurities, though. But, congrats, and I’m proud of you, too, for whatever that’s worth!



  • My two year soberversary is coming up at the end of the month. I was a bartender for 15ish years, got cirrhosis and a liver transplant, now back in school for a career change.

    I haven’t found a so er community in the fediverse yet, though I through sobriety as a topic when beehaw was soliciting new community ideas the other week. Hopefully something comes of it.

    I personally am finding it hard to make sober friends. My old drinking friends, I believe, find it easier to avoid me then have my presence remind them of the fact that making alcohol a huge part of your identity can have seriously negative consequences.

    I’ve tried recovery groups, but the groupthink and religious emphasis of most of them do not jive well with me.

    So, it’s been a lonely experience for me. But the clarity and drive to accomplish things I’ve gained is amazing.