The server is not a bastion for bullying/insulting pretending to be righteous either. From everything I’ve read from the admin what the other user did isn’t it.
If you haven’t looked at the user that initially replied to me, their comments here and on the Reddit link speak for themselves.
I don’t particular want to engage too much on this but I guess if you think the user was being nice then you have a very inconsistent view.
My take, looking at the reactions, is that it’s less so a safe space and more a place to bully dissent if you have a specific righteous attitude.
And we can look at the user’s specific interactions in the Reddit link they provided or with me. Calling generic “transphobia” doesn’t cut it.
If after looking at that you’re 100% in agreement of their actions then revising your rules to be more honest will avoid similar conversations or encounters.