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  • The problem is that “yourself” still comes out eventually. And sometimes it takes a long while to find “the one” because you kind of hid certain aspects from your partners for too long. This is generally why most of my longer-term relationships have failed. Too many “best faces forward” for too long, until one breaks that

    I was mid 30s when I found the one that is “the one”. We had our first date in our work clothes, and had a conversation that would sound insane to any observers. For the last 5 years, I’ve never felt the need to hold anything back or change the way I talk about things, and I dont think she does either. Because we still have insane conversations


  • To me, it’s very zen. it’s more about putting the situation in the perspective that you need to handle the situation for what it is and not focus on being upset at the situation or being upset at not having a solution. Not every scenario has an end that works out for you, If you even have any control over it.

    I usually hear it said when someone is having difficulty with a problem they have no real control over. Sometimes you just have to let things go and deal with your own emotions on the situation (which nobody else can do for you), or remove yourself from the situation entirely.



  • As long-term career advice, I think this is helpful In finding something that doesn’t drag you down. If you can’t be yourself at work it’s going to be far more taxing.

    But I absolutely understand this is a luxury to be able to be in that position of being choosy about your employer.

    You’ll be far happier in an environment that enjoys you for being you, but you’ll find a job quicker by saying what they want to hear






  • Therevevto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneLawns suck rule
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    We’ve tried both clover and thyme, but we can’t get them to really take off. But I think we just weren’t doing enough at a time and wildlife was eating it all. Our current course of action has been killing sections of grass with a tarp, then planting the clover and our first patch is doing well.



  • TherevevtoMemes@lemmy.mlTo subtle?
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    1 year ago

    By all accounts, he was an awesome person. Full on embodiment of rock n roll. Life-long meth addict, alcoholic, and womanizer, but you never hear anything bad about him. He managed to be all those things and still be good person.



  • I think that plays into it, but my most of these people aren’t wealthy. They were all working class. And the most left of these people that I still talk to is is probably better off than most of the rest off them. But he’s also financially comfortable because he was union.

    But I think of lot of those people forgot how bad struggling really is. Nostalgia clouds a lot of opinions. I still tell stories and laugh about some things I had to do when I was struggling, and they can kind of seem like fun stories now that it’s over, and the older I get, the less i think about how much it actually sucked.