Melonius [he/him]

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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • I’ve been reading along and haven’t been discussing because I feel pretty shocked with how relatable the whole book has been. I also attribute my reluctance with some amount of imposter syndrome. It’s very strange realizing all these things so late in life.

    This chapter I did want to comment about special interests and how denying children their special interests can be harmful. I have kids and one of them has one. Maybe it’s just a temporary interest but we go along with it and pull up videos about it or play pretend with it. His grandmother however says it’s “weird” and pretends she doesn’t have the item in the house (she does) and doesn’t let him play with it. This made me angry at first but reading this chapter convinced me to be furious.

    For myself I feel foolish. At work I would do so many things differently than everyone else - and I thought it was because I worked “smarter”. I used to literally pride myself in my ability to mirror other people in conversation and get along with anyone. Which is horrifying to me because I realize I almost never present my real self to so many people.

    I also assumed this was true of everyone. That everyone has these challenges and has to navigate conversations playing the same routines I was taught that don’t really make sense. When I am told neurotypicals want these kinds of interactions I am still doubtful, but maybe I should be more kind to myself and recognize that some interactions are particularly challenging for me compared to other people.

    I’m really glad I started reading this. I’ll take better notes for chapter 6







  • My only hope currently is when they’re old enough to start learning about the world from school, that I can help them get a fuller perspective on the topics.

    This terrifies me. Even now my kid says stuff that I know he picked up from other kids and I have to calmly correct him without being a stick in the mud. I think some of my worst memories growing up were times when my parents harshly rejected something I wanted or expressed and I now know it came from a place of ignorance. Like I said I know I’ve made mistakes in that regard too but I want it to be as rare as possible. I shared plenty of things I learned in school with my parents and I don’t remember any pushback, so I know I can break that cycle at least. In their defense they didn’t have the internet.

    I just try to remind myself that no one in history was born under the clearest skies, no one was born at the right time, or in the right place, and yet they persisted. If they could struggle through their times of troubles, I at least have to try to struggle through ours.

    I know it’s simple but I think I really needed this. Thank you. I want to be able to tell my kids that we’re doing our best and I want to do it without lying to him. Struggling sucks, but its how make life better for our children and their children.










  • yeah it fucking sucks. They built this whole fictitious post scarcity world where the entire population of said world has achieved a semblance of consciousness and the best they can come up with is "lets do the same but opposite agony " like come on.

    and you see it all the time in capitalist media. Here’s the problem, there’s a solution that has been rediscovered countless times throughout history but we’re just going to pretend we don’t know what it is, gosh what a problem you the viewer decide what is to be done roll credits. It is the political/mental equivalent of edging you just want to yell at the screen el problema es capitalismo but w/e. That’s what we get can’t have any flavor or spice.

    I do like to imagine the ending being they abolish their constitution, establish housing for all (are the kens homeless??), give equal voting rights and at least banish the execs back to shitworld. Think of all the awkward car rides home from the theaters by all the lib het couples. But it breaks a cardinal rule in capitalism to put anything on display that shows a hopeful or positive alternative to what we have. You can only display problems and inspire hopelessness and nihilism in the masses - even with hollywoods greatest imagination all they can do is blob-no-thoughts



  • Almost no media produced under capitalism prescribes a solution to real problems and Barbie is no different. I think the movie did a good job articulating the problems some women face in the west but the end of the movie they did a heckin status quo and shrugged their shoulders. If I were a literal person looking to Hollywood to solve my political contradictions, the message I’d take away is that women should do “separate but equal” shit to solve the inequalities and exploitation they face in a capitalist society.

    So ya not great but that’s what you get when any real message would threaten the system that produced it.