Idk it’s a difficult thing to accept. I’m just holding out hope I’ll get there. I think also managing expectations is good. Like I don’t expect to pass as cis, my own goal is to just pass as a woman and be treated as a woman and not constantly misgendered. I think it’s an ok goal and the bar is way lower for that

Idk. Like, I barely look at anyone else in a regular gym. Everyone around me I see is listening to music and stuff. It just a very solo kinda thing unless you’re doing some group activity

Ah I gotcha ok

If you’re in the US I did find that the dresses on stitch fix have been fitting me really well. I mean.its different for everyone but friends also report the same thing. I have recs

Lmao what

I don’t think I ever even come off as queer masc to people. Like I’m not super masc and if I literally changed how my voice sounded, no one would question how I talk I don’t think, but with my voice it’s just like … idk I can be in a dress and full makeup and I get he him’d. I figure it has to be my voice at this point

I actually scheduled a consult with a voice coach. It’s been like, idk a year now and I have made no progress with my voice so hoping that a voice coach can help me. Only problem is that I’m not out at work so I will not be able to go full time with my voice :(

Yeah I just feel super aimless with voice training. I’m still not out at work so I just end up having to go back to the man voice for like 8 hours a day, and I have a bit of a mental breakdown when I hear my own voice so my voice training has been fruitless. On top of that I do have a naturally pretty masculine voice, it doesn’t exist in the middle or anything where I just have to make a few adjustments. And the way I talk I think is pretty masculine.

However I finally got myself together and I have a consult for a voice coach this Friday so yeah. Hoping someone can help me with this

Veeeerrry interesting. Yeah I hear a similar thing from other places from my friends. I mean, cis lesbians here are cool too it’s just I don’t think I’m very seen as a woman so there’s just no interest. I need to do voice training lol I’m pretty sure that’s seriously hindering me at this point

Lmao who needs cis girls anyway

The only cis girl who has a crush on me is straight 😭🥲

Oh yes part of it is that there are less lesbians however, I have over the past 8 months essentially had 0 interest from lesbians or even bi cis women. A little surprising tbh to me at least, I thought I would be an ideal for bi women

Yeah like I’ll say I’ve done dating on both sides now, and I’m realizing that the competition if you’re masc kinda sucks. Like, I was getting a lot of luck by just… Proposing a date, with a location etc, something casual pretty quickly? I picked up the tab etc all the things that are “expected” from a masc presenting person. And it usually went well.

In my experience most men out there basically want me to just come over and suck them off or something. They put in absolutely no effort and a good portion can’t even control themselves not to be weird as hell and be overly horny with me. A good half of the messages I get are some version of “I want to fuck you now” which, tbh, is fucking weird!! Like I don’t even know you sir!!

Climbing gym or regular gym? Bouldering -> very social. Any other gym -> least social thing ever.

If you’ re bouldering it’s so easy to strike up conversation with people who are working on the same problems as you.

Separately I can’t really comment on how you look obviously. I do however think that like, pretty much everyone benefits from trying to dress well in clothes that fit you, keep your hair well kept, trim nails, etc. I see your pronouns so like, I also think, as a woman, looks are less important than general vibe and confidence. Being confident is important. I care more about how a man makes me feel than how they look

Well I’m always interested in women but I’ve always dated women. Would like to try dating men. Who all seem very interested until they have to do literally any kind of thinking or work… Thing though is I don’t accept this as expecting too much, I’ve done this stuff many times in my life when I was a guy. And it wasn’t hard.

That being said I think I exist in a weird spot right now. I think some guys see me really as like a fem boy or something and are acting out some kind of chaser or gay fantasies, and as a result don’t want to be seen with me in public. Or my vibe is a bit too masc for them… it’s like I can talk to lots of people but nothing ever happens unless I make it happen. No one else is making it happen at all…

Ofc it’s very easy to meet other trans women. It’s now more difficult with cis women though, something I’ve noticed. I don’t really get that but whatever lol

I been doing that although I pay less. I gotta say I’ve met a lot of people that way at least In the gym, haven’t really met up with them outside of it but I’m always talking to people and and meeting people there

I met my ex on bumble and it was a very strong solid relationship for a long time. We had to break up due to like, irreconcilable differences but that was unfortunate

Idk I get lots of likes and everything but guys literally just won’t ask me on a date? I’ll say something like “Oh I wanna meet first haha just to know you’re not a crazy person and stuff” and they’re like “haha yeah ok’” and then never actually plan a fucking date. Like come on.

On the other hand I have met multiple friends on dating apps lol. But that’s way less pressure. I did meet a very long term partner on an app too I’ve had luck with them, I’m just honestly frustrated with how the men are, and how they basically want to fuck and don’t want to put any basic legwork in.

Wow I’m actially impressed that even at my older age my parents are able to make me so insecure about my body -.-

No literally it’s going to be “Not actively take away trans healthcare” so it’s a hostage situation.

I’ll be honest as a trans woman I’m pretty nervous for Republicans to take power, as a self interested person. Dems clearly won’t do anything to help though and if the supreme court makes some ruling they won’t fight it.