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Cake day: June 7th, 2023

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  • The early 20’s are always such a time of growth for a person. Weening themselves off the familiar living with family. From not really needing to do anything for existence other than show up to living on your own, fending for yourself, and realizing that making ends meet is a lot tougher than you thought it was going to be.

    There are details missing (like which one of you long distanced) which could help add some context to the overall understanding… However, I can certainly speculate as to what’s happening with him.

    He agreed to the year break as a compromise after telling you he wasn’t mentally capable of handling a relationship and to sort himself out a bit. You said it was too much mentally for you to handle. You have (accidentally) backed him into a no win situation. He cares for you but really wanted/needed that time. He doesn’t want to straight call it off, which was why he asked for the break in the first place. After your response he’s not left with many options and for many people long distance relationships are very very tough.

    I can speculate that he’s distancing himself from you and acting less loving as a method of gently changing the way the relationship functions. If he can become just unpleasant enough that you agree to giving him that time, then he will have gotten what he wanted. after further details this no longer seems possible.

    He could also be partying a bit harder than expected in your absence and doing some things which more than just you would like to know his location (drugs).

    He could be contacting ancient aliens, partaking in extremist religious ceremonies, playing Dnd while on dnd, driving out to the mountains and howling at the moon, planning your engagement and wedding, or pretty much anything else. Whatever he’s doing he is making a conscious choice to do it.

    There is no good and easy way to diffuse this. I’m certain you cannot do it the way things currently are, and some random impartial third party would likely be best.

    No matter what those answers are, they are likely going to hurt both of you to some extent.












  • That totally depends on your hair. If it were like mine back in my teenage years, not even a braid would have a chance to survive with how smooth it was. I just had to shake my head a bit and it’d all come undone. However, because the pink loop is crossed and comes to rest at the bottom of the blue loop, as long as it’s decently tight it shouldn’t really go anywhere quickly. Please check my edits on the previous one as I have had a few thoughts after posting that are likely the way it was intended.



  • I assume you clip the blue “end” to the top of your head temporarily at step 4?

    You don’t need to clip it. It just rests there. The blue loop gets placed through the pink loop and the rest of the hair attached to the blue loop rests on top in Step 7. The “rubber band” is also removed as it’s no longer needed. (Will explain this at the end)

    what goes through the pink loop at the end? Just the aforentioned “end”?

    The ‘blue’ loop of hair that’s tied up.

    how many hair ties are you left with in your hair at the end? 0? 1? 2?

    The instructions leave both in. I say it depends on your own hair density. You can leave the blue one in if you want/need more volume, as it’s another “bump” so it doesn’t rest flat. It’s possible to do it both with and without the one on the blue section of hair.

    Of course. This ‘guide’ completely avoids the topic of hair density, and not everyone is going to be able to use this style if the hair is naturally thin. It also helps if your hair doesn’t naturally rest straight. A bit of waviness is definitely the way to go.

    Sorry for editing so much. I’m realizing that there are a couple ways you could do this, and I’m attempting to be as clear as possible. My most recent realization is that the end of the blue loop probably is the last part to get folded over after everything else is done.