• kittenbridgeasteroid@discuss.tchncs.de
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    1 year ago

    Right? Any relationship takes work to maintain, so expecting things to just magically work without putting in any effort is a recipe for disappointment.

    Also, the whole opposites attract thing is kinda bullshit when you look at 40+ year marriages.

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      1 year ago

      Opposites attract works for sex though. 2 aggressive tops or 2 meek bottoms aren’t gonna have nearly as much fun as one of each.

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        1 year ago

        Thanks to the local porn store, I have had many an eventful evening with another meek bottom.

        … also my experience, give a meek bottom some kind of hardware and an opportunity, and they turn into nearly violent tops. Lmao

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        I think opposites and sames are bad frames to think of sex and relationships. Aggro top and meek bottom are either a recipe for a wonderful night or a terrible one depending on communication and tastes. Likewise I’ve had good sex with fellow bottoms even though it might’ve been better had she been a top. Additionally a generous vers will find no better company than another generous vers. What works best is one’s complement.