Pro-lifers hate women and want to control their bodies. Pro-choicers hate babies and care about their own convenience more than the lives of children.
Or, alternatively, pro-lifers honestly, truly believe that fetuses are children, in which case it is obviously the proper choice to restrict abortion. Pro-choicers honestly, truly believe that personhood does not begin at conception, in which case there’s little room for abortion to be ethically wrong.
Until both sides start addressing each other’s actual arguments, this subject is not going to cool off. You won’t convince a pro-lifer who sees fetuses as children by wrongly claiming they want to control women. You won’t convince a pro-choicer who sees personhood as developing later by insisting that they are a godless baby-killer.
OP is relying on a strawman themselves by continuing to use the term “pro-life” to represent the anti-abortion side of the argument. One can be in support of legal, safe access to abortion and still feel that abortion is against their own moral values.
A true “pro-life” stance should by its very definition include the lives of those who could potentially be harmed by carrying a high risk or unwanted pregnancy to term, as well as those of the children born into situations in which their basic needs are unlikely to be met. And yet, far too often we see those who label themselves “pro-life” completely ignore the value of these lives.