• RinseDrizzle@midwest.social
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    17 days ago

    Aight who has tips on how to mitigate this shit? I’m one of them ADHD cats who’s a little chaotic yet charismatic, so I’m always getting remembered and doing most of the name forgetting. Has made for probably hundreds of terrible moments where I’m absolutely dancing around the fact that I’ve forgotten an old acquaintance’s name.

    If you’ve got a good technique, please share I need that yesterday

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      16 days ago

      I don’t have a good technique, just q similar event. A friend of a friend remembered my somewhat complicated and hard to pronounce name, and pronounced it correctly. I forgot his name. So I thought up something clever. We traded numbers and I asked him to spell his name for me. Genius Chat, Genius!

      He looks at me a little confused and spells his name for me: A, C, E.

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        16 days ago

        Loool know that pain well! Potential salvation with “nah but your last name” or like “there’s not a silent ‘eux’ (or whatever’s clever) in there?”

    • synae[he/him]@lemmy.sdf.org
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      17 days ago

      I find it’s best to just acknowledge it in a jokey way. “hey good to see you again but I have no long term memory, tell me your name again?”… “Jim”… “ok hi Jim, I look forward to having this conversation again next time. How’s life?”

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        15 days ago

        Or if you can’t pull off the humour, just be honest: “Sorry; I remember you [from place, if you remember], but my blinky ADHD memory is terrible with names. Can you remind me your name? … Thanks, [NAME]. And apologies in advance if I forget it again. It’s not personal!”

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      17 days ago

      The only truck I’ve heard is to make sure you repeat their name vocally once introduced, like ‘Nice to meet you, Xerxes!’

      I always forget to do this, though so everyone at work knows my name and I only retain leadership’s names.

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      16 days ago

      I’ve been using this app called Elevate. Supposed to help with my thinking skills, and has a bunch of memory exercises… it’s been helping!

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      16 days ago

      My solution:

      1 - Hi what’s your name?

      2 - Sorry one more time?

      Okay [name], thanks! One moment need to step away. (To write it down in my phone)

      3 - Oh hey again! I’m sorry I forgot your name again. It truly escaped me and I mean no offense.

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        15 days ago

        Please don’t be offended if i forget your name i have that condition thing i ironically cannot remember the name of

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      15 days ago

      I try to avoid introducing myself until the conversation is winding down. “Oh by the way, I’m so-and-so” sounds cool too.