I’ve been in a rough place the past few weeks and could use some insight other than the usual: distract yourself, talk to friends, meditate, exercise, etc. Was there anything that you did or found that really helped to shift things for you?

  • RoundToo@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    It sounds crass, but there is good science behind attachment and neural connections in your brain: have sex with someone new if you want to get over someone else. Your brain will pretty quickly begin to detach from your last partner.

    Just also know that (aside from actual sociopaths) almost everyone starts to catch feelings for a new sexual partner after you’ve had sex three times. Obviously don’t let it get that far if you don’t want to get attached to that new partner.

    I think this is why so many people look for rebound relationships whether or not they’re aware of the neural connections changing. It feels better to start moving on even if that new relationship is completely superficial.

    I only put this to the test one time before I met my wife, but I think it helped me move on from an abusive relationship.