Are there some practical things you can do at that point? Or is that the cue you should just leave?

Some context: It’s a Latin dance party. Meaning you dance with a partner. I do not have a very much experience with it (about 16 lessons, with half of them being repeats). I go there with some people I know, but am not all too well acquainted with.

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    5 months ago

    Remember that a dance party is a party - most people are there to have fun. I think the main thing to avoid, if you can manage it, is being so caught up inside your own head that you aren’t looking at the people around you. Keep your back straight, your head high, your eyes off the floor. Basically, avoid the posture of a shrinking violet and you’ll feel less like one. Even if you don’t feel confident, maintaining a pose that looks confident will keep some of your fear away, and it will passively invite others to interact with you, which boosts your confidence a little more with each person you talk to.

    Even if you spend the entire party standing around and watching other people dance, as long as you are actually watching the event, and mentally present for what’s going on, you will gain something from the experience. Just remember that standing around and not talking to anyone is as much a choice as going up to someone and asking for a dance. Neither choice is wrong, but you have to live with what happens - or doesn’t - based on what you choose.

    All that said, you can do this! We believe in you!

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      5 months ago

      Thank you for your advice! The dance party was a ton of fun and I danced with lots of different people!

      Just remember that standing around and not talking to anyone is as much a choice as going up to someone and asking for a dance.

      This one in particular really stuck with me. And I was surprised how much truth there was to this line ^^

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        That’s wonderful, I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself! And I’m glad I was able to help :)