• GardenVarietyAnxiety@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I’m just really direct, and get told I need to consider how I say things… The only example coming to mind is something I don’t really want to talk about openly on Lemmy. I’ll give a vague represantation though

    (My statements are verbatim, the replies are paraphrased)

    I’ll say “You didn’t do XYZ.” - They say “But I have done X”

    Next time I try “Have you done XYor Z?” - Then I hear “Why are you interrogating me?”

    “What have you done?” - “Why are you being accusatory?”

    Those are all plain and simple black and white questions. I have yet to figure out the code I was supposed to speak.

    Those examples are from the same person, but I get this reaction from most people when I ask simple questions

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        5 months ago

        Thanks for the insight. It’ll be something to keep in mind going forward.

        The place I experienced this the worst was a job where I was in a leadership position, lol. (I have since come to the conclusion that I’m not the leader type)