• afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        Not sure, you should gather more data. Next time you are with someone keep mentioning a different person. Share your results.

        • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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          5 months ago

          My results would be invalid because I don’t participate in open relationships.

          I don’t have anything against such an arrangement, but I know myself, and knowing that my partner may be out, sleeping with another person would make me a very jealous person; normally, in a closed relationship, unless there is some kind of evidence of infidelity, I’m not jealous at all. I don’t look for such evidence, and I do everything in my power to trust what my partner tells me as truth. My most significant rule in a relationship is that I will not lie to them about anything that matters, nor will I tolerate being lied to about the same. I’m up front about this arrangement with anyone I get involved with.

          I have been in relationships where I’ve been lied to, and I have been in situations where there has been infidelity in the relationship (or at least, evidence it did or will happen). I did not like the person I became. So I tend to avoid situations where I could become that person.

          I have not, nor would I allow myself to be in an open relationship. As such, I do not possess the mental fortitude to deal with my partner having intimate relationships with others. It’s a character flaw that I don’t seem to be able to get over, so I avoid it. Since I am not in an open relationship, it would not be a valid comparison, since there’s factors in the OP that I cannot satisfy, and the results would not reflect a comparible situation.

          All I can say is that I would imagine that in an open relationship, such things would be reacted to differently than in a closed relationship. Since I do not have the requisite experience necessary to know those differences, instead, I asked.

          Instead of a genuine response I get sarcastic and snide replies about “how would you feel?”, when I have no basis for comparison.

          Thanks though.

      • MalachaiConstant@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        hang on let me check the big bi handibook…

        yep, it’s ass.

        edit:

        I did not see that there was a second thing you could be responding to. I’ll look that one up too…

        yup, it’s rude.

    • dvoraqs@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      Saying “that boy pussy” might not be about another person, so I’m also not sure this should actually be offensive. He might just be thinking about anal sex while he is in a vagina.

      I’m making a big assumption though:

      • women can have a boy pussy since they also have an anus