All the vibrating alarm clocks I could find do not sync with your phone, and have to be set manually. I thought about getting an Arduino, but then I will have to build the whole thing by myself. The only logical conclusion I could come up with is to get a programable vibrator. But most of them are either very expensive of look too much like a vibrator (sus).
This is the closest I got: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09NNFPHXG https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CD7FPFQ5?th=1
I blindly reach down to my watch and press the button there to snooze the alarm, it’s great!
I use that combination of hardware and Sleep as Android so it starts with just the watch (no noise in the beginning) then escalates to nose and requires me to scan a QR code in the kitchen to fully dismiss.