• Manticore@lemmy.nz
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    1 year ago

    Because of all the ‘um actually’ corrections from people whenever they’d say “Tom and me bought drinks.” And not just to the point one starts thinking it’s always “Tom and I” - I’ve had people ‘correct’ my ‘to Tom and me’, as well.

    This is also why I don’t make a big deal about correcting others’ grammar; it’s often a tool people use to feel smarter (and thus superior) to other people. Language is a communication tool; if I know what you mean and there’s limited ambiguity then I don’t much care if you said ‘would of’ instead of ‘would’ve’; and certainly not enough to interrupt a conversation to correct it.

    • sibloure@beehaw.org
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      Yes exactly. I didn’t mention it above but it seems like the people who use “and I” incorrectly are the same ones trying to sound smarter by being more “proper” or formal. I agree people should just focus on the content of the message. I would not correct anyone in real life, but secretly inwardly it drives me crazy.

      • boatswain@infosec.pub
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        1 year ago

        it seems like the people who use “and I” incorrectly are the same ones trying to sound smarter by being more “proper” or formal.

        Yeah, that’s exactly what makes it sound poorly educated to me.