There’s nothing feminine about being a bisexual guy. Sounds like you want to be androgynous or something. For clarification: I’m not saying bisexual men can’t be feminine. I’m saying the two are unrelated.
If you want to lean andro, take tips from alternative communities.
General high level concepts of how to femme yourself up-
Wear more jewelry (necklaces, rings, bracelets, chains, charms, pins), more of it should be of a feminine style (thinner, more dainty/smaller)
Get more piercings if you’re into them, especially kinds of piercings that men rarely get - belly button, nose, cheek, etc.
If you only get your ears pierced wear larger or more prominent ones, not just studs
Wear things that are outwardly cute - flowers, cutesy drawings, etc. and clothing with feminine styles - bows, frills, ruffles, lace
Expose more skin, and wear clothing that’s cut for women or exposes skin in ways that feminine clothing typically does
Wear colorful and longer socks, expose them
Scarves and boas when its cold
Shorter shorts, skirts, or unisex clothing
Feminine shoe styles if you can afford them - dainty sandals, heels, etc.
Wear makeup. Eyeliner is perhaps the easiest to get away with as many alt communities like goth wear eyeliner
Paint fingers/toes
Grow longer hair, spend more time styling your hair
Wear scents, especially more feminine ones (mostly stay away from sandalwood), if you’re into them… keep them light and airy don’t apply them super heavy
Skin can be exposed in many areas… chest, shoulders, back, legs, hips, etc. not just the abdomen. You don’t have to expose skin everywhere, but there are probably places you’d be comfortable with exposing but are typically not exposed on male cut clothing.
I’m going to share with you something a friend said to me that significant changed how I viewed my own body wrt to clothing.
It was Summer and my friend was wearing a crop top. She was chubby, like me, and she told me about how her mum always hated my friend wearing crop tops because she thought it was inappropriate if you weren’t skinny. My friend explained that she found this an absurd perspective, because it’s not like the fact that she was chubby was at all a secret - like it’s not as if covering up her tummy made people less aware of the fat that existed there. The kinds of people who would be negative about her weight would be negative regardless of what she was wearing.
This struck a chord with me because I had spent years trying to lose weight, and also dressing in a way that made me miserable, because I had mentally gated off any fun self expression or style as something for when I got to a size I was happy with. When I look back on photos from that time, I cringe, not at my weight, but on how I dressed; my compulsion to cover up the body I wasn’t happy with made my body look worse.
I had the best progress in losing weight when I sort of snapped and just started wearing what I liked, regardless of whether I felt I “should” or not, and I look back on photos from that period much more positively. What my friend shared with me helped me along that route, though it did take me a while to be confident enough to wear crop tops.
Although this story is about crop tops, I’m not trying to convince you to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Expanding one’s style to be more reflective of how you feel is usually a gradual process and there’s plenty of other things to start with. Just try your best not to make the same mistakes I did. Internalised fatphobia often makes losing weight even harder, and I found it much easier to imagine the person I was working to be once I started dressing a bit more like her. A sense of vision was helpful. Also, “too chubby to wear [thing]” is a pretty blurry line and it’s not clear when you’ve reached it, because wearing things that you’d like to but don’t feel able to is always a stressful thing that needs working up to
Great list! For piercings, I’d add (nose) septum and additional earrings (i.e, secondary ones that might run up the ear, beside the standard centre-of-lobe piercing)
That’s true and I can kinda see why you’d get that from OP’s post but to be fair, OP never actually claimed it did either. They just asked two separate questions.
To stop being a pedant and actually answer your question: Wear brightly colored striped socks. People will know you want the D. I can’t help you with attracting women - I know nothing about that.
There’s nothing feminine about being a bisexual guy. Sounds like you want to be androgynous or something. For clarification: I’m not saying bisexual men can’t be feminine. I’m saying the two are unrelated.
I know I just want to present androgynous or slightly lean in one direction. Unrelated to sexuality
If you want to lean andro, take tips from alternative communities.
General high level concepts of how to femme yourself up-
I would expose skin but I’m currently chubby. Losing weight but not happy with my body thank you for the list tho
Skin can be exposed in many areas… chest, shoulders, back, legs, hips, etc. not just the abdomen. You don’t have to expose skin everywhere, but there are probably places you’d be comfortable with exposing but are typically not exposed on male cut clothing.
I’m going to share with you something a friend said to me that significant changed how I viewed my own body wrt to clothing.
It was Summer and my friend was wearing a crop top. She was chubby, like me, and she told me about how her mum always hated my friend wearing crop tops because she thought it was inappropriate if you weren’t skinny. My friend explained that she found this an absurd perspective, because it’s not like the fact that she was chubby was at all a secret - like it’s not as if covering up her tummy made people less aware of the fat that existed there. The kinds of people who would be negative about her weight would be negative regardless of what she was wearing.
This struck a chord with me because I had spent years trying to lose weight, and also dressing in a way that made me miserable, because I had mentally gated off any fun self expression or style as something for when I got to a size I was happy with. When I look back on photos from that time, I cringe, not at my weight, but on how I dressed; my compulsion to cover up the body I wasn’t happy with made my body look worse.
I had the best progress in losing weight when I sort of snapped and just started wearing what I liked, regardless of whether I felt I “should” or not, and I look back on photos from that period much more positively. What my friend shared with me helped me along that route, though it did take me a while to be confident enough to wear crop tops.
Although this story is about crop tops, I’m not trying to convince you to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Expanding one’s style to be more reflective of how you feel is usually a gradual process and there’s plenty of other things to start with. Just try your best not to make the same mistakes I did. Internalised fatphobia often makes losing weight even harder, and I found it much easier to imagine the person I was working to be once I started dressing a bit more like her. A sense of vision was helpful. Also, “too chubby to wear [thing]” is a pretty blurry line and it’s not clear when you’ve reached it, because wearing things that you’d like to but don’t feel able to is always a stressful thing that needs working up to
Thank you for sharing tho I’m too fat to wear anything I’d like to wear. Seriously contemplating not eating
Great list! For piercings, I’d add (nose) septum and additional earrings (i.e, secondary ones that might run up the ear, beside the standard centre-of-lobe piercing)
That’s true and I can kinda see why you’d get that from OP’s post but to be fair, OP never actually claimed it did either. They just asked two separate questions.
Yeah. Could have worded it better
To stop being a pedant and actually answer your question: Wear brightly colored striped socks. People will know you want the D. I can’t help you with attracting women - I know nothing about that.
Tbh not really interested in attracting women. Prefer guys. I want to max I want guys vibes
I don’t know if it’s a thing at your location, but here an earring on the right side would do the trick.
Ohh ok. Jock straps.