Also sometimes you don’t get rejected and instead get dragged into a 6 year long abusive relationship with someone with both borderline and narcissistic personality disorder and you end up with ptsd.
rejections feel nice after that
Sometimes you dodge a bullet and sometimes the bullet dodges you.
No i was definitely hit by the bullet. There was no dodging involved.
and now you know when to go.
You miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.
Good on anon.
You say that, but now I’ve been electronically tagged for hanging around a train station toilet naming people’s penises.
Joe, get off of Lemmy
Can… Can you name mine?
Squiggly boi
Xandorp Writhingshame
What kind of names do you give them?
How’s your half-brother Fabio?
Yes, but also chances sometimes are coupled to contra-chances that trigger instead and are scary enough to warrant avoiding the whole thing.
We need to teach young men that it’s okay to be rejected when asking a girl out and not to be so hard on themselves.
And also teach young women that rejection doesn’t mean looking at them with a disgusted look and saying “Ew!!”
tHe WoRsT sHe CaN sAy Is No
No. No it’s not.
When all those chances are realistically 0 it doesn’t matter…
Are you okay my friend?
What I read was OP build all this stress in their head for months.
Then when it reached its breaking point, OP finally did it and then it exploded in their face.
Gonna recommend not doing that.
Even if I didn’t get rejected I would still be paranoid about it being a prank on me, was asked out as a prank at school.
Try again. The woman I’ve been with for over a decade originally said no as well.
But don’t think that life is like a 90s romantic comedy and go full stalker.
Nah break into her house and raid her underwear drawer, you’ll seem quirky.
Yeah, I just said try again, and not again and again and again either
I have never seen one person who didn’t take the first no, who then proceeded to understand any of the other noes. Them throwing an adult tantrum and promptly leaving is the good ending. Maybe ignoring any answer you don’t like isn’t brilliant advice in general.
Or maybe you could just try and be a human being, not an overly simplistic social algorithm, and try to understand whether there’s actually any realistic chance for that no to become a yes, and how.
Social interactions are complex and this kind of reddit teenager “wisdom” is completely inadequate.
Try again yes but with a different woman.
This depends entirely on the nature of the, “no”.
If it’s a shy, non-commital “no”, with zero followup explaining any reasons they don’t want to, then sure maybe another ask is in order.
If it’s a solid “no”, or they start listing off excuses or reasons after a tepid no… They probably actually don’t want it. It COULD be something like anxiety making them say, “no” and stammer out some weak excusable excuses, but that is rare compared to someone who just wants to politely say no.
Sometimes it’s better to just get it out there, regardless of the outcome, rather than let that feeling fester within you for years. Or you look back later on in life and think, “I should’ve said something…”, or “Why didn’t I ever…”. It sucks donkey balls getting rejected and you’re probably more likely to get rejected than not, but it’s still something you should do in spite of the odds. Like my hot cousin, I always wonder what might’ve been had I made a move, but I’ll never know and that’ll stay with me for a lifetime now.
You had me at the “just do it” part.
But you lost me at the “hot cousin” part.
These are my favorite comments, like a mini Norm Macdonald joke.
Maybe we should ask them to share a picture. It might depend on how hot the cousin is!
Minus the cousin bit, I knew of a guy who lived in Washington that did just that, just got it out there. Ken Pinyan, he was a Boeing engineer. Everyone just called him Mr. Hands.
Is a fan of Sam Hyde.
Surprised he isn’t attractive to women.
