How has nomading affected your ability to have long-term and especially committed relationships?

Long-story short: got back with my ex after a 3-year hiatus in which I visited 15+ countries and had countless of romantic encounters.

Now, every time we have an argument or when things get hard, my mind starts to drift away, thinking I should just pack things up, get a ticket to Mexico/Thailand/etc, and seek those hookups again.

I do wonder, having taken the red pill, whether I’ll ever be able to stay in a committed relationship?

How have you guys dealt with this (esp if you’re male)?

  • dancingmywaythrough@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Ah, that’s perfectly reasonable. When you’re with someone for a long enough time, conflict will inevitably arise. The reason you are seeking your past hookups is not necessarily because they were better, but because in that vacuum of travel, where the setting is beautiful and you just don’t have enough time to really get to know someone long term, the moments feel perfect.

    I know this because some of my most cinematic experiences have been with guys while I was traveling. The novelty of a new place, mixed with the beauty of getting to know them in some of the most beautiful global landmarks. Most of my DN dates ended up becoming my good friends, haha.

    What if you traveled with your partner and built a foundation of excitement with her? It could be your time to focus on building communication and conflict resolution. Alternatively, if you’re really seeking something short term again, you should most likely leave this relationship.

    • BrewedWithAI@alien.topOPBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      Thank you so for much the constructive feedback! Yes, we are trying to work towards enabling her to be location-independent as well, so I do hope that it helps