Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

  • ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    27
    arrow-down
    10
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    A big part is diminishing religiosity. There is little point in getting married if you aren’t religious. Thanks to progress made by LGBT couples, most of the legal benefits of marriage are shared by domestic partnerships. Traditionalists on the left and the right make a big deal of this, but it is of negligible factual importance.

    • dumples@kbin.socialOP
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      17
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      I don’t think most people who get married do it for religious reasons or even to start a family in the US anymore. People do it since they see it a formal a commitment and want to announce their love in public.

      • mumblerfish@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        1 year ago

        That only covers one angle, if people do it for religious reasons, not if they don’t do it because of religion. I’m not getting married, and the religious connotations of even a secular wedding is a significant chunk of why.

        • Jimmyeatsausage@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          29
          ·
          1 year ago

          There’s also a million legal reasons to get married… If there weren’t, same sex marriage would probably have never made it to the Supreme Court. Everything from insurance coverage, employment benefits, credit rating, child custody, transfer of property following death, medical decisions, and a bunch of other very secular, very important benefits are conferred via legal marriage.

          • CleoTheWizard@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            1 year ago

            Is there any way to adapt this better for polyamorous people? I have poly friends that got around it by choosing a primary partner and marrying them, but that seems like a bad solution in the long term.

            • dumples@kbin.socialOP
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              2
              ·
              1 year ago

              I don’t think that is going to be happening for a long time. It took decades for gays and lesbians. The marrying of a primary partner is the best solution so far.

    • Donkter@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      1 year ago

      I’m pretty sure it’s pretty clear that the slight increase in domestic partnerships over marriage does not shore up the declining marriage rates.