I’ve actually been wondering about this for a while. Realised this is a really good place to ask!
So when you’re dating someone in Malaysia. How often do you like to check in with your partner? How much is too much or too little?
I’m a pretty independent nyet so once every couple days feels about right for me. And maybe share some funny link if it pops up. Any more and I start feeling this slightly smothering obligation hanging in the air. But I’ve heard a pretty wide range on what people think is normal / makes them insecure. Like some couples wish each other good morning and good night every single day kinda thing. (But also some couples wear 100% matching outfits when they go out. Pls just let me die instead)
Hmmm I think people who do that think of it as a “I’m thinking of you”, it’s probably not small talk to them. I’m extremely not into it as well though, so that’s just guesswork haha.
Sounds like both of you were on the same page for amount of contact! Just being together and enjoying each other’s company is underrated imo.
My previous long term was exhausting because he wanted way more contact than I did - ended up I felt smothered and he felt unloved. My mistake was trying to give more than I could.
Anyway, we all live and learn. Definitely happier to be in a much less stressful relationship now :)
It’s always coming from a place of love and affection I’m sure, but I feel like it’s almost formal?
“good morning love”
“good morning! have a nice day”
It’s so… not intimate, but that’s just me!
It really is underrated but it’s also somewhat overrated to think that “love conquers all” as well; you still need to be a responsible and considerate human being to your housemate that you “love” and have a good time with.
Cheers to that, love!