It’s been almost 10 years. I’ve given up on the hope of them being less jarring to look at so covering is the only thing I can do…

  • Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
    19·
    22 days ago

    I feel this post even though I am not trans. My wife, an ex professional athlete, blew out her knee twice and has very visible scars. She never wears anything that doesn’t cover her knees and is very self conscious in a bathing suit because of the scars. I hate to see her unhappy and uncomfortable.

    • pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online
      16·
      22 days ago

      A tattoo might be a good way of covering the scars up. There are artists that specialize in things like covering mastectomy scars, so it’s worth a look.

  • cassie 🐺@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    182·
    22 days ago

    as a masochist I forget people feel bad about their scars, given how much joy I get out of leaning into mine. They’re badass no matter what they’re from, and personally I get so much euphoria out of the fact that my body reflects how much shit I’ve persisted through just to be alive and how much pain I can take. kind of like a tattoo, and tbh might work em into one at some point.

    my sister had a pretty nasty motorcycle accident and had to get her elbow rebuilt. it rotates in a pretty different place and there’s all sorts of scars around where the asphalt tore her up. and every time I see her in her short sleeved Ripley-ass jumpsuits she likes I’m like “YEAA THAT’S MY CYBORG SIS”

    I know it’s never as easy as “but they’re hot tho!!”, not here to dismiss the feelings but… they’re hot tho!!

    • Tiefling IRL@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      8·
      22 days ago

      I have a similar mindset with mine. I’m covered in scars from performing (as well as accidents and SH) and always seem to be healing from something.

      To me, scars are a symbol of our body’s resilience. I try not to let them have power over me by instead viewing them as a symbol of healing. A scar reflects something that our body went through and healed from, and is a symbol of how far we’ve come since.

      • cassie 🐺@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        4·
        22 days ago

        For real. The human body’s ability to repair itself and adapt is astounding and scars represent how immense injury can become distant with time. they also accentuate curves quite well :>

    • Ark-5@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      3·
      21 days ago

      Totally agree!! I remember how I got most of my scars, even a lot of the little ones. Wear them with pride if that’s for you!!

      Not to get philosophical, but this also relates to my like transhumanist tendencies. The cyborg sis story, and stuff like that. Like hell yeah! At a point it’s character customization, and that’s bad ass. I think that’s why I have such a tough relationship with my mom. She can’t understand why I feel the need to edit what she made. And to be fair I can’t understand what it’s like to be in her position, so ¯_(ツ)_/¯

  • EABOD25English
    7·
    23 days ago

    I’m ignorant to the whole thing, but I would imagine they’re deep scars. Have you tried getting lotions with salicylic acid? It’s a sking steroid that is supposed to help with scars, stretch marks, and psoriasis

    • SL3wvmnas@discuss.tchncs.de
      12·
      23 days ago

      Hope I’m not intruding. If OP is like me Salicylic acid will not work for some strange reason, metabolism maybe. I am currently in month 2 of 6 of trying silicon scar sheets like these and my scar is getting less pronounced and smaller. I usually put these on the scar right before going to bed and leave it on for the night. Sometimes even forget it and it stays on for the day too. So far I can recommend these.

      • EABOD25English
        4·
        22 days ago

        Your comment certainly seems more experienced than mine. I’ve used it on shallow scars ony inner arms and knees and it took care of the scars. Just figured I’d try and share what I’ve experienced

        • SL3wvmnas@discuss.tchncs.de
          1·
          22 days ago

          I think yours is a good recommondation. Definitely recommend trying out, this was in no way meant to discourage. I have had this pesky scar on my inner thigh for over 10 years and kinda gave up trying different things, these scar sheets are new to me and so far worked amazingly well.

      • Chuymatt@beehaw.org
        1·
        22 days ago

        As another poster said, silicone scar gel (or personal lube, if you don’t care) works well.

        It works best on hypertrophic scars, or those that are thick and raised. Age of the scar can be a factor, but even 20 year old scars can be modified by application to and massage (5 min a day) of the area.

        Atrophic scars, ones that are sunken are a bit more difficult to address without more invasive work.

  • socialpankakemix@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    5·
    23 days ago

    are you me? lol, you can still see the deformation under the socks :(

    but they are cute, you cant take them away from me, im sure yours are cute as can be too <3